Being a Teen Mom is Hard
Hi, my name is Ginger, and I was a teen parent. I was 16 when I had my daughter Casey 20 years ago. Just shy of turning 17. I was super scared. Her father, was 24 at the time and sitting in jail when I gave birth. I was alone except for my mom and my sister. I did have a smattering of close friends.
Casey’s father was rarely there during my pregnancy. Sold much of what I was given, and then landed in jail a month before she was due. He since spent much of her life in prison except for a couple of years. She does not really know him. Though she has met him and spent time with his parents. There were very helpful in the beginning, but then they stopped.
My mom was not thrilled that I was pregnant, what parent is when they hear that their 16 year old daughter is pregnant. I know I wasn’t. More on that later. My mom was not your typical mom. She loved her TV, toast, coffee, and smokes. Sometimes in that order, sometimes in a different order. She loved being a mom when we were younger, but not as we got older. We walked all over her. So, she retreated to the couch. That is where she was always at when she was not working.
I was left to my own. I had to get everything myself. I had to work for it all.
and, I did.
My favorite aunts, Aunt Carm and Aunt Kathy did throw me a baby shower. I got a ton of cute things for my Princess. With what I had already gotten, I had enough. Then it much of it went missing. Her father sold many of what I had gotten. But, I was able to fix that and still had exactly what we needed.
Casey was born eleven days later than what she was supposed to be. She is 20 years later trying to still catch up. She is forever late to everything. But, I love the girl. On my due date, I was taking mid-term exams. I did very well on those if I remember correctly. I could not wait to hold my baby girl,
Being a Teen Mom is Hard
Casey was born February 3rd. I was a month shy of 17. We spent a lot of time washing laundry as she had a condition called Pyloric Stenosis that she ended up having surgery on a month later. I was in for a shock.
A huge shock. This baby wasn’t a doll. I could not just put her down when I was done playing with it. I had to nurse her, then later on make bottles. I had to wash those bottles. I had to bathe her, wash her laundry. I had to take her temp rectally. I had to be a mom.
At 16, I was now a mom and I had to care for someone other than myself.
Being a teen mom is hard, much harder than I thought it would be.
I really wish I had Tricia Goyer’s book titled, Teen Mom, You’re Stronger than You Think. I think back then, it would have helped me, remind me, I am stronger than what I thought. I was so scared. Tricia just gets it. She understands.
She was there.
Tricia had her first child, her son when she was 17. She gave birth 3 weeks after graduating. So while her friends were considering what parties to hit that summer, she was thinking about baby names and the upcoming birth. She was scared.
Tricia writes from her experience. Which is amazing! She is such an awesome author. I have reviewed other books of hers on here before. Not only does she write from her experience, she has tidbits from other moms through the entire book. She has these sections called, “Think About It” where she gives you some thoughts to really think about. And, there are sections called, “My Life” where she has quotes from other moms writing about an experience that corresponds with the chapter. At the end of each chapter, there is a spot where the teen mom can write down thoughts, and do a couple of exercises that help understand what they are going through.
I really wish I had this book then, and, I really wish I had Teen Mom when my own daughter became a mom at 17. I think Casey would have benefited very much from reading about Tricia’s experiences.
Someday, I want to run a home for teen moms. I want to have a place for them, a safe haven. I would love to run a group meeting for teen moms in our area. I think there is a huge need.
Being a Teen Mom is hard, but we truly are stronger than we think.
I give Teen Mom, You’re Stronger than You Think, by Tricia Goyer 5 stars!
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